DEAR MISS MANNERS: A friend sent me an invitation to her child’s 7th birthday party; however, it came with a handwritten message that stated, “It’s probably best to come after 4 when the party is over ...

It seemed like a way to invite me to a party, while sending a seemingly mixed message that I’m not really invited after all.

According to etiquette guru Jo Hayes and dating coach Emily Thompson, being a good wedding guest goes beyond just showing up and giving a gift.